Published on March 4th, 2014 | by Jason Goldberg

3 Steps to Get Rid of Worry for Good!

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In this video you will learn:

Why the key to getting rid of worry is NOT positive thinking
A better way to worry that puts you back in control of your life
The super easy 3-step system to shift your worries from this moment on!

How many of you are worried about something right now?

It can be seemingly small or monumentally big! Worry consumes our mind and often attracts other negative emotions like hopelessness and sadness.

Sound familiar? (I know it does for me!)

Today on MEometryTV we are going to talk about how to convert our worries into something MUCH more productive, better feeling, and action-oriented. It is only from THIS place, free from worry, that we can truly live an EPIC life!

It’s not about the power of positive thinking

Though I am a firm believer that our thoughts and beliefs create our world, this is about something different. If anything its about the shift to positive action.

I’m going to assume first of all that whatever it is you are worried about is real (in other words not the boogie monster or alien attack)

When we are worried, we are acting from a very passive place, but we don’t see it that way when we are “in it”. When we are worried about someone else, we think it shows that we care, that we love them but it ends up having the opposite effect. No matter how good and pure and loving your intentions are, if they know you are worried, it may hold them back from telling you things because they don’t want you to worry, which now brings worry on to them.

If you are worried about yourself or some situation directly affecting your life, you may end just circling around the problem in a state of fear-based paralysis, helplessness and anxiety. Not to mention the physical toll that worrying can take, things like cardiac issues, sleeplessness and a host of other illnesses, beyond the fact that it just feels heavy. Who wants to live like that?

A more creative way to worry

There is, of course, a much better way to “worry”. One that involves letting the amazing machine you have running the show, your body and brain, use its intuition, creativity, and problem-solving abilities to create, instead of react to, the situation at hand. The shift is from “worry” to “concern”.

Concern is a FAR better place to be! Concern is active, it’s mature. It takes the drain-circling stress of worry and replaces it with the action of clarification, finding creative options, planning, and TRULY caring for ourselves and others.

Real-life example: shifting potential job loss from worry to concern

For my VIP-eeps that have been following MEometry for a while, you know I love systems to make major life shifts easy and so I have come up with a simple 3 step process for converting your worries to concerns so you can take action and feel empowered!

It goes like this:

Step 1: Restate the worry and replace the word worry with concern

Step 2: If I truly wanted to help (myself or the person I’m concerned about) what would I want the outcome to be or how would I want myself/the other person to feel?

Step 3: What action can I take NOW that would be in alignment with the outcome I wanted in step 2

I was recently working with a client who was REALLY worried about the fact that his wife’s company was going to be shutting down and she would lose her job. He agreed to go through this 3-step system and here is what he came up with:

Step 1: Restate the worry and replace the word worry with concern

“I am concerned that my wife may lose her job.”

(That by itself made him feel a little lighter, which just shows the power of the words we choose.)

Step 2: If I truly wanted to help (myself or the person I’m concerned about) what would I want the outcome to be or how would I want myself/the other person to feel?

“I want my wife to feel supported and encouraged during the transition and I want to be there to help her be prepared for finding her next position.”

(This is much different than silently worrying or thinking about the person as a victim. It is truly other-focused.)

Step 3: What action can I take NOW that would be in alignment with the outcome I wanted in step 2

“Make my intentions known to her in a supportive way AND offer my assistance to help with her resume and interview prep.”

(Verbal, emotional, and functional support, creative solutions and most importantly, action-orientation.)

It’s only natural

Your reaction to stress, whether worry or concern, is based on practice and habit. If you can start reframing your worries to concerns earlier on, it will become your new default response and you can stop wasting your precious time and energy on immobilizing thoughts and instead create the outcome that you desire.

I’ll leave you with a quote from the Dalai Lama and it’s a MEome-tweet:
“If a problem is fixable, if a situation is such that you can do something about it, then there is no need to worry. If it’s not fixable, then there is no help in worrying. There is no benefit in worrying whatsoever.” -Dalai Lama XIV – Click here to tweet it out!

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Be You, Do You, and Love You because you know there is only one OF you!

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Authentically Yours,

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Jason “JG” Goldberg